Another Day of Blah

So I was looking back on recent Blogs. And I see a similar theme: my marriage is blah. I think what it comes down to is this: I don't have the energy to spice it up. I'm exhausted. Physically and emotionally and everything in between. I'm tired of always taking the first step. Here is what else I'm tired of: My husband only touching me when he wants sex. Can he kiss me without grabbing my boobs?

The other things that pisses me off? My husband's indecisiveness. One days he’s ranting that I don’t do enough around that house (what?!?!), the next day he’s thanking me for everything I do. One day he’s suggesting we date other people. The next day he wants to buy a house with a white picket fence.

Make up your damn mind.

girl number one

Happy Anniversary

Sorry to have abandoned you. We were on vacation. And my feeling about marriage these days? Blah.

My husband and I will be celebrating our 4th Anniversary in a couple of weeks. My husband is not big on celebrating or anything. I usually make him buy me something. I realize 4 years isn’t anything to get worked up about. I mean we've made it past the honeymoon stage. Now we're in the stage when we're too busy for sex, too broke for date night and we're having a hard time deciding between buying a house and getting divorced. Yes, that's year 4 in a nutshell.

Well here are my lows and highs from the past 4 years.

Highs:

Year two, we started watching The Office. We borrowed the DVDs from a friend, and every night we’d watch until we couldn’t keep our eyes open. My husband would be too tired to get up for work in the morning. My husband doesn’t think I’m funny, and I think he’s a big dull dud, so the fact that we found something that amused us both was incredible. We laughed so hard.

The first year of marriage? Bliss. He would take a long lunch. Come home from work; we would have sex and eat lunch together. I would make everything from scratch. Cookies, bread, lasagna. Then, in the evening, I’d wait by the door for him to return from work. And we’d eat dinner together. Have sex. Talk about how much we loved each other. Ughhh. Gag. I’m glad that’s over.

 Lows:

When we moved across the Midwest, we had no furniture. Well we had a mattress. So we slept on that, ate on the floor and played brick breaker on our phones. So about 2 weeks after we moved, we drove 90 minutes down to IKEA and spent 8 hours getting EVERYTHING we needed for the house. Furniture to pots and pants. My husband has an opinion about the décor of the house, so the conflict and stress of picking out an entire house was almost too much for our marriage. Then after we had spent 8 hours with a newborn in IKEA, we discovered they didn’t deliver to our house. So my husband drove our stuff home in a moving truck, and then came back and got us. Wiped us out.

Driving 22-hours across country with 3 children and in-laws. We made it half-way, and my husband suggested we head home. After 2 hours of convincing him the rest of the trip wouldn’t kill us, we headed South. It was really stressful financially for my husband. The kids were having out-of-control-meltdowns everyday and the in-laws were exhausted. Perhaps a vacation after vacation?

So Celebrating 4 years of laughing, love, stress, kids, in-laws, redecorating...

  Girl
Number One

Thankful Thursday Part 2

Okay, Fine. I'll make a list too. I don't want to be the one who is ungrateful. And I think I am ungrateful. After awhile, you just start expecting things from your spouse. You stop appreciating. So 10 things, I love about my husband.

1.      He works 2 jobs so I can stay home with the kids. He would work 8 jobs if he had to.

2.      He indulges my love of shoes.

3.      Some nights he comes home and says, “I know you want to go out to eat. Where to? Mexican?”

4.      He doesn’t know who is playing in the Super Bowl or what March Madness is. Instead he watches the Jersey Shore with me.

5.      He never says anything bad about me behind my back.

6.      He (usually) doesn’t get mad when I call him 7 times while he’s working.

7.      When I cry, he lets me wipe my nose on his shirt.

8.      He didn’t get too mad when we accidentally got pregnant 3 times. He’s a really great dad.

9.      He always says, “Okay, baby” when I tell him I need something.

10.  After almost 4 years, he finally puts the toilet seat down.

Girl Number One

In-laws

Yes, my in-laws arrived in town yesterday. Yes, they are staying For a month. If you don't hear from me for awhile, check the gutters. I mean, I love my in-laws, it's not that. I just might need more meds. Cuz I can't just sit around and watch soaps and eat bonbons when people are watching....

girls number one

Movie Quotes

I was reading through some movie quotes today and came across this one.
From "Overboard", one of my favorite movies. I think this may be
my life quote.
Or perhaps, the motto for our Blog?

"I don't belong here, I feel it, don't you think I feel it. I can't do any of these vile things and I wouldn't WANT to. Oh, my life is like death. My children are the spawn of hell, and you're the devil. Oh God."

girl number one

Nice things

My husband and I don't speak the same love language (Love Languages). I don't want to paint my husband in a bad light or anything, but seriously, in the past 4 years, he's done about 8 nice things for me. Nice things = my love language. Most of the time he is a pain in my ass. And sometimes he does nice things for me, but they benefit him somehow. Like when he bought me an Iphone. I didn't really want one anyway, and the reality behind him buying it- he wanted an Iphone and he knew I'd be mad if he spent $400 on himself. (He got some deal; ended up only spending $400 on both and we had a $200 credit at best buy, so it was actually a pretty sweet deal).

Anyway, so this morning he had to wake up early and catch a flight. He kissed me before he left and said, "I made coffee for you." Okay keep in mind:

1. This is  the first time he's ever made me coffee in the morning.

2. I'm sure this was partly selfish, bc he wanted some coffee bc he was leaving early. But I didn't even care. It was the best part of my day, week, month.

Girl number one

Bobby Pins

Question I get asked the most (by my husband):

Why are your bobby pins all over the house? The floor? In our bed?

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Headaches and Orgasms

So, for the past 3 days, I've had a headache. Maybe brought on by stress, lack of sleep, new birth control. Who knows. I vaguely remember something about orgasms getting rid of migraines. Won't hurt to try...

And my headache is gone. Seriously. No headache.

Interesting Article about sex, migraines, headaches and orgasms

girl number one

Plateau

Sorry, I haven't written in awhile. I've been feeling blah and melancholy about my marriage. Perhaps we have hit a plateau. Which is okay, because I’m completely exhausted from the recent highs and lows. Specifically the lows.

The last time my husband and I had sex? Hmmm. Actually I can’t even remember.

He was putting the moves on me the other night, and I felt like I was going to puke. I’m just being honest. Perhaps this is just a phase? A phase that lasts while you have preschoolers. You’re so exhausted that the thought of having sex makes you want to puke?

Please tell me I’m not the only one…

Girl number one